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Negative thinking
Affirmation: By being aware of my mindset and my emotions, I can direct by beliefs and attitudes toward hope, happiness, and accomplishment.
Negative thinking is probably my biggest struggle. For one, it is a wolf in sheep’s clothing. My thoughts suggest I will be free from criticism or disappointment, or even accountability, if I just accept in the “now” what is not possible, then I will be repaid at some point in the “not now.” The thoughts parade through my head like a knight in armor, ready to slay any painful experience that threatens me.
Good thing I now know this is straight bullsh*t.
Because I strive to act in ways that reflect my values, my feet will follow what I believe about myself. If the messages in my head scream shame and disappointment, I scream right back – “Bold and confidant.” Sure, this thing I pursue could lead to some unpleasant end, but that will not alter the character of my actions.
Negative thoughts come at me in the form of “you can’t”, “you won’t”, “because you can’t, you won’t”, and, my most common, “you can’t, never could, and won’t ever.” Would I keep going on a dates with someone who said this on repeat?? Of course not. So why have I allowed these worthless thoughts to live rent free in my brain? The answer is that I have not found a way to feel I am, have always been, and will always be able, whatever that “able” may look like (if you are confused by the notion that I would try to accommodate for this vast expanse of possibility, please read How This ADHD Thing Works)
This is the point where I start putting my ADHD to work:
What I will feel in another time or place is for the “not now.”
In the “now” – I am bold and I am confident. In this moment, it is enough to know I am, I can, and I will.